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The Emotion and Logic of “WHY”

May 20, 2016 @ 12:32 pm

In the standard American culture, needing to know the “why” of anything is paramount in our thinking habits. Our minds are just trained to “the need to know.” In fact, NOT knowing is grounds for dismissal! For example, let’s say that my son just lost his shoe. “Why” did he loose his shoe? How could he do such a thing!?! The temptation is to berate and blame. When you ask “why” you are presupposing a “because.” This same function happens when a …

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An Open Letter to Family

January 11, 2016 @ 10:36 am

Hello Family. I thought I would take a moment and share some of my thoughts with you. This open format makes the contents available for others and follows my intention of openness, honesty, and grace. You see, I have some changes if my own to share with you that can benefit others as well. I think my changes have been confusing for you. Over the last 10 years my philosophy of life and our place in it has grown. I …

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Swiss Cheese Childhoods

January 1, 2016 @ 1:38 pm

Hello Readers, In order to explain better the concept of less-than-nurturing childhood experience and preparation for adulthood, last week I used the metaphor of a block of Swiss cheese. Consider that a person in their adult years stands on a block of Swiss cheese as they navigate the present life of being a grown-up. A healthy adult stands on their two foot by two foot Swiss cheese block with few holes in it. There are some holes, but these holds provide …

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Definition Continued: Counseling as Empowering

October 5, 2015 @ 4:38 pm

In our series about the definition of Counseling we are to the part about “that empowers.” As a reminder, let me quote the entire definition as set forth by the American Counseling Association: “Counseling is a professional relationship that empowers diverse individuals, families, and groups to accomplish mental health, wellness, education, and career goals.” In looking at definitions of the word empower, I find dictionaries that say the word means to give power to, to equip. It sounds like more of …

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“If Nothing Changes…

October 1, 2015 @ 12:57 pm

..the Status Quo Prevails.” October 1, 2015. Musings for this morning. In taking a higher view of my circumstance, I have come to the awareness that nothing will change if I don’t change it. Is the current situation meeting my needs? No. Do I want to do something different? No. Can I continue at this level? No. Do I need to change something? Yes. Bummer! Why do I always have to be the changer? Where are other adults in this …

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LOVE-a Multisensory Experience

September 10, 2015 @ 10:00 am

Love is… The top of a baby’s head, The scent of an ocean’s spray. The taste of your kisses… A ripe, red strawberry bursting. Tenor of voice, “That’s Ole’s purse!” “You are the Love of my Life!” Skin to skin, lips to skin, Scent to skin, scent to skin. The color of your skin, your hair, your eyes, your smile, you’re content.. Squirming effort, to breathe, to stretch, to delight, With Sense. (Now go back through and replace the phrase “Love …

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Avoiding the Pain of Grief

September 7, 2015 @ 4:11 pm

Today I struggled with the very human emotion of grief. Did you know, according to The Grief Recovery Handbook, that grief is anything we wished were more, better, or different? I was unaware for the first half of my life that this was the case. As a result, I did not know what was happening when I experienced these feelings of anxiety, overwhelm, or despondency. These feelings represent my unique and very personal response to life happening the way I was …

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Strangest Thing Happened!

September 3, 2015 @ 10:00 am

Strangest Thing Happened on My Way to the Counseling Room What do you do when you are teaching about being IN your body and you realize you have not been conscious of being in yours? So, I learned that I become aware of the fact that I was not IN my body before noticing this fact while demonstrating the principle to a person. In the photo that will soon accompany this post, you see my skirt and shoes. This is …

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Definition of Counseling

August 31, 2015 @ 7:03 pm

Here is the definition of Counseling defined by the American Counseling Association, my national professional organization. “Counseling is a professional relationship that empowers diverse individuals, families, and groups to accomplish mental health, wellness, education, and career goals.” First of all, I would like to cover what is a professional relationship and how does it differ from other types of relationships. I like to tell my clients that we are not going to be friends. We will not go see a …

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I Was an Anna Duggar

August 27, 2015 @ 11:21 am

http://www.khou.com/story/life/2015/08/24/raise-them-breathe-fire-post-anna-duggar-goes-viral/32268713/ After reading this article, I was inspired to write this post. Anna belongs to a tribe of women she doesn’t even know: Chaste, wholesome, dedicated, trying to be holy. I volunteered at my church, sang in the choir, reared my children in the Youth Group. Homeschooled, started a 4H club, was a community volunteer. And, I was an Anna Duggar. Reared in the church from the age of 3 weeks. That’s the age at which my mother believed you …

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American Counseling Association "Counseling is a professional relationship that empowers diverse individuals, families, and groups to accomplish mental health, wellness, education, and career goals."

—American Counseling Association 2010