Definition of Counseling

Definition of Counseling

Here is the definition of Counseling defined by the American Counseling Association, my national professional organization.

“Counseling is a professional relationship that empowers diverse individuals, families, and groups to accomplish mental health, wellness, education, and career goals.”

First of all, I would like to cover what is a professional relationship and how does it differ from other types of relationships. I like to tell my clients that we are not going to be friends. We will not go see a movie together or become tennis partners. The only relationship we will have will be in the Counseling space.

Another function of a professional relationship is using training and expertise to provide support to a person. The person receiving the support reimburses the “expert” with payment. Merriam Webster defines professional as: “of, relating to, or characteristic of a profession. b : engaged in one of the learned professions. c (1) : characterized by or conforming to the technical or ethical standards of a profession (2) : exhibiting a courteous, conscientious, and generally businesslike manner in the workplace.” In this way, a Counselor has participated in formal rigorous training in the profession of

Counseling. In my case, I have a Bachelor of Social Work degree and a Master of Arts in Community Counseling. I adhere to ethical standards as set in my professional organization. There are standards and scope of practice and codes of ethics.

A Licensed Professional Counselor in Colorado then practices at least for 2000 supervised hours before petitioning the state to issue a license to practice. It is a defined accomplishment.

A third point about the professional relationship part of the definition of Counseling is that the relationship itself is set apart and special. Because of the parameters set by the profession everything about the meeting I have with a client is provided to optimize the client’s emotional processing. It is almost a sacred place “held” by the Counselor for the purpose of safety and non-judgment.  Much of the time the most curative part of the work is actually the relationship. It is special, set apart, intentionally warm and inviting, and like no other relationship a person can have.

Counseling is a professional relationship. That’s a great place to start.

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I Was an Anna Duggar

I Was an Anna Duggar

After reading this article, I was inspired to write this post. Anna belongs to a tribe of women she doesn’t even know:
Chaste, wholesome, dedicated, trying to be holy. I volunteered at my church, sang in the choir, reared my children in the Youth Group. Homeschooled, started a 4H club, was a community volunteer. And, I was an Anna Duggar.
Reared in the church from the age of 3 weeks. That’s the age at which my mother believed you could start taking a newborn to church. She organized the nursery care, taught a women’s Sunday School class, and made food for potlucks. She directed the summer vacation Bible Schools. My father was a Deacon and almost single-handedly kept our church together after a split. And, I was an Anna Duggar. I only use her name because of the recent news about her husband Josh Duggar, and the recent revelations of his actions and choices.
I was reared to be a strong woman. Get a college degree and stay home with your children. Learn to play the piano so I would marry a pastor and be better able to support his work. A woman’s place is in the home or the church. Only, at church the job was to support Christian rearing of children and bring honor to my husband. I stayed for 21 years.  Well, 20 if you count when I found out.
What about Anna Duggar? She will be stronger and more determined because of this “trial” we would say in the church. She will make her difficult decisions as she sees fit. She will handle her life the way she has handled her life up until this point. With dignity, grace, dedication, and the good pride.
Just like we all do.