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An Open Letter to Family

Hello Family.
I thought I would take a moment and share some of my thoughts with you. This open format makes the contents available for others and follows my intention of openness, honesty, and grace. You see, I have some changes if my own to share with you that can benefit others as well.
I think my changes have been confusing for you. Over the last 10 years my philosophy of life and our place in it has grown. I have understood more about myself, where I’ve come from, where my interests lie. It’s ironic that I have actually been getting to know myself more and more. Not the self I had built to please others or construct an impenetrably successful life, but my REAL life.
The time I have taken has been well spent. Uncovering, healing, celebrating who I really am. Without the should’s, musts, or have-to’s. The best mental health is when the outside of a person matches the inside, and vice versa. Really.
I am not sure you knew I used to hate myself. I was petrified with self-hatred. Obviously, something was out of sync in my life.
I really like who I am. Really. Who I really am.
In some ways exposing myself to who you reflect back to me, as me, is too different and therefore replicates remnants of that place I used to be.
I also do not think you are available for who I am. I have tried earlier-on.
I am a Highly Sensitive Person. I hear the messages and feel the covert-or, meta-messages. And, with my career I practice and hone these skills every day.
The thing is, I do not want to expose myself to who you think I am. That was for the first half of my time on the planet.
I need genuine interest, no judgement, compassion, and grace. That is all. Oh, one more thing, presence and attunement. (Thank you, Dr. Dan Siegel, Dr Alan Schore, and colleagues.

Janis B

I had never been good at shopping for clothes for myself or anyone else for that matter... I lacked confidence and dreaded clothes shopping. Then along came Valerie into my life! She explained the basics of matching my body shape to appropriate clothes styles and types... She took me shopping and critiqued my choices. She gave me valuable information in easy to understand language. I now have confidence to shop for clothes – not only for myself but also for others, like my husband. Now, putting together a wardrobe for each season is fun, exciting, and enjoyable! Valerie was a God-send to me...
- Janis B.
2014-08-12T10:22:43+00:00
I had never been good at shopping for clothes for myself or anyone else for that matter… I lacked confidence and dreaded clothes shopping. Then along came Valerie into my life! She explained the basics of matching my body shape to appropriate clothes styles and types… She took me shopping and critiqued my choices. She View Full →

Sherry A.

I have learned that you can't overdress for interviewer. Maybe even for construction? Want to be "above" the other guy.
- Steve L.
Validation of taking time for myself and sharing with others is healthy."
Sherry A.
2014-08-12T10:23:21+00:00
I have learned that you can’t overdress for interviewer. Maybe even for construction? Want to be “above” the other guy. – Steve L. Validation of taking time for myself and sharing with others is healthy.” Sherry A.

Kara K.

I gained new insight on what I can look into what career I can have and how diverse it can be
Kara K.
2014-08-12T10:23:53+00:00
I gained new insight on what I can look into what career I can have and how diverse it can be Kara K.

Cheryl L.

My True color test-described me to a "T"."
Cheryl L.
2014-08-12T10:24:24+00:00
My True color test-described me to a “T”.” Cheryl L.

Kristin W.

I thought tailored professional was the same as full professional, now I know the difference.
Kristin W.
2014-08-12T10:24:44+00:00
I thought tailored professional was the same as full professional, now I know the difference. Kristin W.

Deborah S.

I can truly say that enjoy networking. It is the key to finding out about yourself and others.
Deborah S.
2014-08-12T10:25:36+00:00
I can truly say that enjoy networking. It is the key to finding out about yourself and others. Deborah S.
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Family is the housing we develop through on this earthly journey. I am loyal to a fault-or, I used to be. I need to protect, value, honor myself now that I am an adult. And that is what I have been practicing and will continue.



American Counseling Association "Counseling is a professional relationship that empowers diverse individuals, families, and groups to accomplish mental health, wellness, education, and career goals."

—American Counseling Association 2010